We often hear a quick "I appreciate you," but those words can feel empty. It's like saying "good job" without explaining what was good about it. To really show appreciation, we need to be more specific and genuine.
Think about it this way: how do you feel when someone recognises your efforts in detail? Let's say you worked hard on a project, and your boss simply says "good work." Okay, that is nice to say of them.
But what if they said, "I really appreciate how you took the initiative on that project. You went above and beyond to research the market, and your presentation was clear and convincing. Because of your hard work, we landed that new client!"
That feels a lot better, right? That's because they were specific about what they appreciated. They noticed your effort, your skills, and the positive outcome you created.
This kind of specific appreciation is powerful. It makes people feel seen, valued and understood. It builds trust and strengthens relationships, whether at home or in the workplace. When people feel appreciated, they're more likely to be happy, motivated, and engaged.
So, how can we get better at showing appreciation?
🎯 Describe the action or quality
Instead of a general "I appreciate you," point out what exactly you appreciate. "I appreciate your patience while I was figuring out that new software" is more meaningful than just saying "thanks."
🎯 Explain the impact
Share how their actions affected you or others. "Your help with baking those extra biscuits meant we could finish the project on time and didn't have to stress about it."
🎯 Keep it positive
Focus on the good stuff. Don't mix praise with criticism. Save constructive feedback for another time.
🎯 Go beyond words
A handwritten note, a small gift, or even a hug can express appreciation. Offering to help with a task or simply listening attentively can also show you care.
🎯 Consider their preferences
Some people love verbal praise, while others prefer acts of service. Pay attention to what makes people feel valued.
Showing appreciation isn't just about good manners; it's about connecting with people on a deeper level. It's about recognising their strengths, their efforts, and their impact. And when we do that, we create stronger bonds, happier relationships, and a more positive environment for everyone.
